I like to dream big. Have big goals, and then be happy if I even reach 70% of the goal. But sometimes I really overestimate myself.
Wring chicken necks
I thought if you want to eat meat, you have to own it, and the least you can do is thank the animal that is giving your life for your gastronomical pleasure, then butcher it yourself. Or go vegetarian. Six months later, we are still to eat a chicken. We eat lots of eggs though :). Mr duck is no longer with us because he was becoming unbearable but I stayed clear of the butchering zone until his head was off. BIG FAIL.
Grow stuff
While the mild weathered highlands of Guatemala produce any kind of fruits and vegetables all year round, I was wondering why almost no one had a garden around here. I would plant my seeds, harvest bountiful watermelons and tomatoes, and live off my crop for most of the year. Half a year of burning sun, heavy rains, harsh winds later, I get why people don’t sow a thing. And am still to eat my own grown tomato.
Build my own house
When it came to the decision of whether I would buy a ruin in the South of France or a small lakeside plot in Guatemala I envisioned myself fixing up the French house mostly by myself, learning about plumbing, electricity, masonry and an array of other manual skills, for the pride of doing it and for the sky high price of labor. At $200 per month, Guatemalan workers do it all and I barely supervise, having not learned much about a thing.
Running
I knew I had good endurance since I can swim and cycle for long distances. So I thought it would take a couple of workouts to run like a gazelle. But it was my first impact sport workout in years and it is taking time. At the moment I am on week 3 of the Couch to 5K program and can run for 3 minutes, walk for 3 minutes and so on for about 20 minutes. Slowly but surely, I am getting there. Update: I can now run for 3x20minutes for a total of one hour at a time. Still, I wouldn’t have been able to do it if it weren’t for weeks of slowly building up strength.
I put together a little running guide for beginners if you’d like to get started too.
Dealing with failure
Not to turn this into a brag-fest but I have had my fair share of success this year too, this blog being one such example. And people who never failed are the ones who never tried in the first place. When you deal with failure you have to ask yourself a few questions.
1. How bad is it? How important was it for you to succeed?
You may be a perfectionist for whom running 10k is not good enough because you can’t run a marathon. Try to be contempt or to assess the failure objectively. Was it really thatbad? Do you really care or is it just your bruised ego?
2. Should I keep going?
Not all endeavors are worth your time, effort and dedication. Dropping things on the way is fine, if you find out they don’t suit you.
Chickens >> maybe
Garden >> meh
Building things >> not until forced by higher wages
Running >> yes
3. Can I do something better instead?
Again it depends on your values, I’d like to be able to build stuff but honestly I don’t have the patience to spend 8 hours learning about XYZ when I can make enough on that blog in one hour to pay for someone else to do the job better!
I am easily distracted so I don’t really mind failure, which is good, because out of many failures, come success!
When have you overestimated yourself? How did you deal with failure?
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maria@moneyprinciple says
Said like a sage! I am a bit like you with a minor difference (or not). Everytime I start on a new and mindly mad venture I think to myself ‘how hard could this be?’. By the time I realise how hard it is, it is usually too late to give up (this applies to running – about mile 17 of a marathon you know how hard it is but there are only several more miles to go :)). I think big but…I’ll never decide to raise the animals I eat – I tend to befriend them and we don’t eat our friends. I am not sure whether I could kill something either….
Brent says
At least you’re very honest with yourself and the rest of the internet! My biggest struggle is thinking I can get more done in a period of time. You should see some of my “to do” lists that I craft at the start of the day… I usually get to the end of the day and wonder why I thought I could get through those 382 items on my list when I’m still on task #7.
Oh well, better to see the glass half full then half empty!
Matt Becker says
I think this is the right end of the spectrum to be on. I tend to be on the other end, where I come up with lots of reasons why something won’t work out and end up not even trying. That’s something I’ve really been trying to push myself past recently. I think it’s much better to aim high and found out what your true limits really are than to set your own boundaries and keep yourself from ever really achieving anything.
Mrs. Pop @ Planting Our Pennies says
What’s the saying? “The only way to truly fail is not to try.”
As long as you can be happy with looking back at what you’ve tried and be satisfied with having made progress, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with these “overestimations”.
Heck, we just call them stretch goals and when we don’t make it, we shrug it off. Since usually just trying to make them puts us in a better place than we would have been otherwise.
FI Pilgrim says
I’m slowly coming around to your way of doing things. I typically will only set goals that I think are attainable, but lately I’ve started to dream a little more. Maybe that comes with a little experience? I don’t know, but it’s nice to try and “punch above your weight” sometimes!
BTW, my family had 15 chickens when I was a kid (which was very out of place in the suburban area where we lived), but we only at the eggs. I can’t imagine ringing their necks myself. I still love to eat chicken though. 🙂
AverageJoe says
I’m the opposite. I spend most of my time underestimating myself. I’m always surprised when I can do something that everyone around me has said that I can do for the last five years. I have to constantly push myself to go beyond my own homemade barriers.
Cash Rebel says
I love the idea of butchering chickens yourself or choosing to go vegetarian, but in guess it doesn’t always work like that. There have been plenty of construction/auto maintenance projects just I wanted to learn how to do, but when time got tight I paid someone else because it was so cheap.
Your list of “failures” simply means that you’ve tried some awesome shit this year!
Liquid says
It’s like that saying goes: shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars. The important thing is you’re learning from mistakes and getting to know your own strengths and weakness. It’s a dilemma for me to eat the chicken or let it continue to lay eggs. Either way the purpose is to get protein for ourselves. Kind of like is it better to keep an income generating investment or sell the whole asset as a one time deal lol. I sometimes overestimate how much sleep I need each night. I think I’ll need 7 to 8 hours, but I can usually function quite well during the day with less 🙂
My Wealth Desire says
Like many bloggers, we are not IT guy still we manage to have a nice site. We maintain a blog, to inform and entertain others.
I started building site from scratch, at that time I did not feel to underestimate myself. Or else may be still I be doing the same nonsense things. Still keep opening or stuck in the Facebook.
DC @ Young Adult Money says
I think I all too often overestimate myself. In particular I think I can “do it all” and try to cram way too much into my schedule. I would say by far the biggest thing I’ve overestimated myself on is our house. While I have done quite a bit of work by myself, there is such an extensive amount of information that you need to know and understand about plumbing, electricity, woodworking, etc. that there is no way I would have the time to learn it all and DIY the projects I have planned. I also have high hopes for my blog, but my goals can quickly become unrealistic. As I’m trying to think of a revenue figure that I want to shoot for in 2014 I am going back and forth on whether to put it at a nearly impossible amount or put it at a more down-to-earth and seemingly achievable amount.
Holly@ClubThrifty says
I wouldn’t be able to eat those chickens either….cuties!!! =)
John S @ Frugal Rules says
I think that’s the right approach to take. I hate to fail, but you can learn so much from it in the process that can help you for future endeavors. I tend to underestimate myself but have been really working on shifting out of that as it can really hold you back if you allow it. Having the blog has helped a lot with that in starting something I had never done before. As for the chickens…I’d like to think I’d kill them, but I no myself better than that. 😉
Pauline says
That’s why I gave them stupid names but even then it is hard to think of them as meals on legs…
Stefanie @ The Broke and Beautiful Life says
I could never butcher an animal. I’m vegetarian so I guess I’ll never have to 🙂
Good work on the running. I just ran my first 20 miler last weekend, two years ago, I’d never run more than a 5k. It’s amazing how quickly all those training steps build up.
Pauline says
congratulations! I am pretty amazed too, I slacked lately as I am traveling for 10 weeks but still able to run a 10K now without too much trouble. I just get bored with the electronic music, and without it I lose my pace if I put my own music.
E.M. says
Lately I’ve been underestimating myself. I guess you could say I’ve been getting a little too complacent. I am really looking forward to getting the heck out of here and moving next year, and I think my focus is going to that. I keep thinking about all the stuff I will do after the move, but that doesn’t help me right now! I need to set little goals for myself, otherwise I end up setting unrealistic goals and getting a bit discouraged. I have always been my worst critic.
Pauline says
Seems like small goals will do the trick. Start little and grow. I would be doing the same too, that is a big life change!
Kali @CommonSenseMillennial says
I’m with you on the idea that if you want to eat meat, the least you can do is raise your own and butcher the animal yourself (and then try to use up as much of the animal as possible!). Because I can’t do that now, I’m currently a vegetarian. It’s a dream of mine to one day I own land and a few animals for this purpose, like chickens, and become as self-sustainable as possible.. but I have a feeling I’d end up like you, and be eating a whole lot of eggs and not a lot of chicken! I don’t think that’s a failure, though – I think it’s wonderful that you’re caring for chickens and have your own egg supply 🙂
Pauline says
yes, it’s pretty neat! honestly I don’t miss the meat and have gone for a few weeks without but my BF loves it so when he is around we have meat daily.
Krista says
I live near Portland and it has somewhat of an obsession with raising chickens, downtown, in apartments, everywhere. They’ve made new laws because of it! I think it’s so great that everyone wants to know their food and in some way show gratitude. I appreciate the post (all of it not just the part about chickens).
Pauline says
haha I have seen that in Portlandia. I like to see where my food comes from but in Guatemala it is really good quality anyway, rare are the people who use hormones or pesticides and in my village you can buy chickens from virtually anyone. I just wanted to give raising my own a try but I guess I’ll stick with the eggs…
Grayson @ Debt Roundup says
I am not sure if I overestimate myself, more like overextend. I think I can take on more than I really can and it catches up with me. I guess you can say that I overestimate how long things will take.
Pauline says
guilty as well!
Done by Forty says
I’m reading Tim Ferris’ 4 hour work week and I’m coming around on his (and some of your) thinking as well. Outsourcing to others can be way, way better than DIYing everything. Like you said, why spend time only to get barely proficient at something when you can make enough money in an hour to have others do the work better, via geographic arbitrage?
Pauline says
I like to DIY for several reasons, mainly because I have plenty of time on my hands and it is like having a purpose for a little while. Then because if you don’t have someone to do it for you for some reason (car stuck by the side of the road, food shortage…) you should know anyway, even if you don’t do the thing all the time. But I am in the “until I really have to I will try” camp and most of the time prefer to pay for convenience or having someone do it.
Shannon @ The Heavy Purse says
I’m big on a goal-setting and I like to set stretch goals, although there are times where I stretch a little too far. 🙂 Sometimes I overestimate when I can do but I am getting better at setting boundaries and delegating work too. And you are spot-on that we need to step back and reassess whether or not we should keep going. It’s not about giving up, but whether or not something is truly worth your effort or if your effort is better served elsewhere.
Budget and the Beach says
OH gosh, too many to name really. I try and fail all the time. But I do keep trying, and once in awhile something sticks which makes everything worth it.
Pauline says
that’s the spirit, keep going!
Jake @ Ca$h Funny says
I think we all overestimate ourselves at some point in our lives. I definitely overestimated myself on how much time I would have for my hobbies. I thought that I’d have plenty of time to spend on each one of them, but I now know that this is not the case. I don’t have time for everything so I am being forced to prioritize better.
Pauline says
I am always in awe at people who seem to do so much. Like Leo from Zen Habits who has 6 kids, a happy marriage, runs marathons, a super successful blogs, and the list goes on forever. I am overwhelmed just being me.
Erin @ My Alternate Life says
I manage to strike a good balance between underestimating and overestimating myself. I’m always amazed that I can blow some of my goals completely out of the water and fail so miserably at others.
I could never slaughter an animal. I am a meat eater and I know that animals are killed for my meals, but I wouldn’t be able to do it myself. That probably makes me a hypocrite but it’s the truth.
Pauline says
I don’t blame you for it!
Jack @ Enwealthen says
While I’m still working, my time is fairly valuable, so I am quick to spend my money (time) to buy someone else’s experience and save my time (money).
The one exception to that rule is fixing my home appliances. By the time you’ve paid someone to come by to take a look at your washer, dryer, dishwasher, etc. here in California, it’s almost more expensive than buying a new one. With so many DIY forums, repair manuals, and parts stores online, so far it’s just been a few hour research and labor for any appliance repair. Fingers crossed that they keep running smoothly!
Kim@Eyesonthedollar says
I think I sometimes overestimate my ability to get everything done. In my mind, I see a perfectly clean house with a nutritious, made from scratch meal every evening, and I’d never be late for anything. It’s just not possible all the time. I’m doing better with letting it go. If there are crayons on the kitchen table and shoes in the floor at bedtime, it isn’t the end of the world.
moneystepper says
Well done on the running progress and its good that you can be honest with yourself regarding both your successes and failures. Everyone has successes. Everyone has failures. Its knowing the difference between when you should try to turn a failures into a success, and when to abandon the failure, that is the real key!
Debt girl says
My grandmother was the salt of the earth and butchered rabbits and chickens. Then on the other hand she saved a robin, I have a picture of her with Robby on her shoulder. There is balance. If you need to you will do it. Don’t underestimate yourself either! 😉
Nell @ The Million Dollar Diva says
Interesting post. Although I guess it is better to overestimate your abilities and not quite reach your goals, than underestimate your abilities and never even try. I like pushing myself to see how much I can achieve. It’s a struggle to believe in my abilities sometimes, but at least I’m always working towards something bigger.